The Positive Power of Play

Play is a wonderful opportunity for parents to engage fully with their little one. Through play you are able to get a glimpse into their world, open up new channels of communication, and help to build enduring relationships. For some parents- playing with your children might feel awkward or like a luxury when there is so much else to be done. But the benefits of playing together leave a lasting impact, that makes it well worth the investment.  

A  few tips for parents to keep in mind when playing with their little ones: 

• Resist the urge to direct or lead the play. It is critical for children to be self-directed during play, or it's not really play- it's following directions. 
• Use reflective language, repeating what you see and hear. Think of yourself as a mirror for your child, following their lead and sharing in their process. 
• Ask questions to clarify your role (what would you like me to do?) But avoid asking "Why?" or digging for meaning in play. It's frustrating for children to interrupt play to explain or examine what they are doing. 
• When playing with toys or other objects, avoid the urge to move your little one's body or hands for them. Even if they are playing with a toy the "wrong" way, authentic play is meant to be an exploration. You may choose to model the "correct" way for them, and your little one might change their approach or save that information in the future. 
• Play should be FUN! Relax, focus and fully engage in the activity and delight in this little window into your little one's world. 
• Leave your phone in another room. I’m not here to judge. But distracted play is not accomplishing the goal. And it’s really hard for us to avoid a quick glance at our notifications. If your phone is out of reach, you are far more likely to remain focused on your child with your full attention. 
• Set aside some time this week to engage in play for 20-30 minutes with your little one. This makes a special time for the two of you, and ensures that it actually gets done during busy days. You may be surprised at how that 30 minutes recharges your battery and sets aside some of the worries of your day. 

The unique thing about play is that children are born experts at it! In fact, they use play to teach themselves the things they need to learn. Play is the way that children internalize and process information, organize their thoughts and feelings, and express their inner voice. It improves dexterity and supports physical, cognitive, emotional, and social development. So, soak in these playful moments while you have them grownups!